Empowering kids with diversity

Oscar Wilde once advised: “Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.” When expat children are in the minority in a host country, it is not always easy for them to feel good about themselves. How can parents talk to their children about diversity and encourage positive self-identities?

Giving positive reinforcement

Deborah Levine, coach and editor-in-chief of American Diversity Report, recommends that parents reinforce children’s self-identities in a new country by expanding on the child’s interests and talents. “If they are attracted to music, take them to concerts, let them hear the popular music of the country,” says Levine. “Allow them lessons playing an instrument and encourage them to join groups and clubs with others of similar interests. Follow that same path if their interests are in the arts, theatre, or sports. Doing so will familiarise the child with the country’s version of their interests as well as gather with others who share their passion. The process also honours the child’s interests and talents, giving positive reinforcement for being themselves.”

Diversity as a strength

If children (not only expat children) learn to understand that diversity is a strength it will contribute to the well-being of the child, especially during the adjustment phase. But how can parents show their children that diversity is a strength? “Children need to admire diverse heroes and try to emulate them,” says Levine. “That will give them an appreciation of men and women of different backgrounds who have achieved greatness. Let them read about these people online and then go into depth with the heroes in areas that are of special interest to the child: technology and science, business, education and sports, just to mention a few. Talk about what makes them great, what about them is to be admired. Have them make a list of all the admirable traits they come across and hang it up in their bedroom as inspiration.”

How children benefit

According to Levine the benefits of these positive reinforcement and hero admiration strategies is that they are internalised by children. “The process builds neural pathways that can be expanded throughout their expat experience and beyond,” she adds. “These children not only learn how to manage their challenging expat experience, but gain invaluable skills to build on for future challenges and opportunities.”

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