Extramarital affairs can inevitably occur with expats but infidelity, and potentially divorce while overseas, can be an extremely complex issue, especially if children are involved, which is why we are highlighting the issue.
Greater temptations
We should start by mentioning there is no good reason to assume that expats cheat more than other people, even though there are expat destinations where the level of temptation, especially for the men, is greater than usual.
Symptom not cause
Regardless, we believe it helps that you are aware of the issue and discuss it with your partner. Anyone who is about to embark on an expat adventure can benefit from a frank and open discussion about the quality of their relationship, perhaps with a counsellor or coach, because cheating is more often a symptom of tension in an existing relationship, rather than the cause.
Nurture your relationship
Expat life brings fundamental changes and this could result in stress for both the seconded employee and their partner. So it’s important to keep your relationship in good condition. How? Chiefly by making time for each other and keeping the lines of communication open.
Sense of personal significance
It is also important for the partner – usually the woman who had to give up her job – to find a way to ascribe a sense of personal significance to their time overseas. If this is lacking, it can lead to dissatisfaction, perhaps even resentment, which can put a strain on the relationship.
Seeking help
Should a relationship come under pressure as the result of infidelity it may help to talk to a marriage counsellor, relationship therapist, or another trusted person.
